The Stay at Home Hostage? A Stay at Home Son's Story
Is it his fault that he painfully stays at home with his mother wanting so badly to move out and have a life of his own? Some may say, "why isn't he working"? For one, he claims to not have gotten the right advice as a child in order to allow him the luxury of living on his own and having a life. No matter how hard he tries to make a living for himself his world is just not in agreeance with the idea. 40 years old with no job or friends, constantly accused by his mother of blaming everyone for his current position in life, in a way it is kinda her fault, but she doesn't want to accept the fact that she screwed up as a mother. Till this day he still doesn't know how to really get out on his own and make a way for himself.
He had many jobs, but has always been fired or quit. With a bachelor's degree, ex-military, a book on the market and his own websites, it is clear that he is trying to make a living for himself, but just don't have the right guidance. A person who has a track record of trying to do something with their life and still haven't gotten anywhere is usually somebody's fault other than theirs right? I mean how can a guy who continues to strive to be successful in life end up at his mother's house.
He studies his life, trying to find out why he is in the position he is in. The only conclusion is that his mother has her ways of keeping him with her and he is blind to how she is doing it. Is she drugging him? Lying to him? Or just giving him the wrong advice to keep him with her? She claims to want him out of her house, but he is clueless as to how. He spends all of his time trying to figure out a way, but fails. Everytime he feels like he has come up with a way to escape, someway, somehow his mentality is blurred and he either forgets what he was to do or suddenly becomes uninterested. Is he a victim? Could he be a hostage in his own mother's house and just not aware. I'm afraid that he may be responsible for a domestic violence case if he doesn't escape soon.
How could a mother do this to the one that they love? Maybe because she loves them. But if she loves them then she must let them live. If she is selfish, then she really doesn't love them like she claims as she is only concerned about how she feels and not how they feel.
She hates him, because he is a burden, but a burden because of her failure. She is forever responsible for him, hoping that a miracle happens with all of the things that he tries to do to escape. Deep down she knows that it is too late for him, but doesn't want to tell him. If she tells him that he is a failure than it will make her a failure officially and she cannot accept that.
She is hurting him, allowing him to continue to try to never get anyway to only be in the same place that he was at before. He is forever a hostage, but when she dies, he will be a hostage to the next person. If she had only did her job with her life in the beginning, he would have a job and a life today!
He had many jobs, but has always been fired or quit. With a bachelor's degree, ex-military, a book on the market and his own websites, it is clear that he is trying to make a living for himself, but just don't have the right guidance. A person who has a track record of trying to do something with their life and still haven't gotten anywhere is usually somebody's fault other than theirs right? I mean how can a guy who continues to strive to be successful in life end up at his mother's house.
He studies his life, trying to find out why he is in the position he is in. The only conclusion is that his mother has her ways of keeping him with her and he is blind to how she is doing it. Is she drugging him? Lying to him? Or just giving him the wrong advice to keep him with her? She claims to want him out of her house, but he is clueless as to how. He spends all of his time trying to figure out a way, but fails. Everytime he feels like he has come up with a way to escape, someway, somehow his mentality is blurred and he either forgets what he was to do or suddenly becomes uninterested. Is he a victim? Could he be a hostage in his own mother's house and just not aware. I'm afraid that he may be responsible for a domestic violence case if he doesn't escape soon.
How could a mother do this to the one that they love? Maybe because she loves them. But if she loves them then she must let them live. If she is selfish, then she really doesn't love them like she claims as she is only concerned about how she feels and not how they feel.
She hates him, because he is a burden, but a burden because of her failure. She is forever responsible for him, hoping that a miracle happens with all of the things that he tries to do to escape. Deep down she knows that it is too late for him, but doesn't want to tell him. If she tells him that he is a failure than it will make her a failure officially and she cannot accept that.
She is hurting him, allowing him to continue to try to never get anyway to only be in the same place that he was at before. He is forever a hostage, but when she dies, he will be a hostage to the next person. If she had only did her job with her life in the beginning, he would have a job and a life today!
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